Freelance writer Katrina Fox, in her article on same sex marriage published on Wednesday, suggests that “monogamy may not be natural to humans,” and “the proliferation of adultery websites offering extramarital dating services is one indicator that the expectation of lifelong sexual bonding to one person ‘till death do us part’ may well be unrealistic for many people.”
Well of course. That’s one reason why Christians promote the civilizing influence of marriage, which remains the ideal, the goal, for most of us.
Unfaithfulness in marriage normally results from either boredom or fatigue. Sometimes there is simply a lack of good role models, or poor relationship education. Or we seek to live out the hollow and contrived norms of our screen dramas. And there is the pressure on advertisers to squeeze out every last drop of sexual energy and titillation as they spruik the product, which affects us all.
Often what we’re searching for is what will make us whole; we seek acceptance and intimacy, and an absence of masks.
And that is often best achieved in the kind of marriage relationship that Christians have encouraged and facilitated for thousands of years. We can all do more to respect and strengthen marriage as a public good.
Broadcast on 2CH Sydney, 6 Mar 2011.
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